So, men, get your pencils out. This is a crash course in being the kind of partner any woman would want to date (or at the very least, have no-strings-attached sex with again).
How a woman feels about her body can directly affect how much she enjoys sex.
This isn't about vanity -- body image can have a serious impact on a woman's sex life. Positive body image is associated with having a satisfying sex life, and the reverse is also true. A growing wealth of research suggests that negative body image can make women distracted and self-conscious during sex, which can seriously detract from pleasure.
These sentiments may seem absurd to men who think the women they sleep with look amazing. But it's important to remember that just because you think she looks good doesn't mean that she feels good.
Our culture values male pleasure more than female pleasure.
Research has shown that women are less likely to enjoy sex than men -- and young women are about half as likely to orgasm during sex as young men.
Some of this is the result of our cultural prioritization of sexual acts that are most pleasurable for men, like intercourse. While only 8 percent of women can reliably reach orgasm through vaginal sex alone, nearly all men can. And other research indicates that younger women spend more time attending to men's sexual needs than their own.
The "orgasm gap" between the sexes is particularly pronounced when it comes to initial sexual encounters. On average, men show less investment in giving women an orgasm when it's a first-time hookup. The more committed men are in the relationship -- in other words, the more invested a man is in his female partner's pleasure -- the narrower the orgasm gap becomes.
And just because she's not speaking up in bed doesn't mean she's actually enjoying sex.
A 2012 study of college students found that in casual sexual situations, some women may worry about whether it is considered "acceptable" to speak up about their sexual desires.
It's worth staying engaged with your partner and speaking up if you sense that she's not saying something. A simple "tell me what you like" can break down barriers and create a comfortable space where you both can both truly enjoy yourselves.
The average woman takes about 10 to 20 minutes to reach an orgasm during foreplay and intercourse.
Men, on the other hand, typically take seven to 14 minutes to climax. And most women who do orgasm during a sexual encounter don't do so through your typical penis-in-vagina sex alone -- many women require a variety of sexual acts to induce an orgasm. So make sure to ask her what she finds pleasurable.
If you feel like your touch isn't turning her on, you probably just haven't found the right place to touch yet.
The responses ranged from the mouth to the ears to the arches of the feet, which has been attributed to the 7,000 nerve endings we have down there. But it wasn't just about the number of nerve endings -- some women said they enjoyed being touched in areas of their body that they feel particularly confident about. It's worth taking the time to figure out what a woman loves most about her body and giving it more attention in the moment.
And for some women, unfortunately, sex might not ever really feel good.
For some women, pain or discomfort during sex can be the result of couples prioritizing intercourse over other sexual acts. For other women, this discomfort may come from medical conditions which may make it difficult to fully engage in and enjoy sex. Researchers have consistently found that nearly half of women suffer from sexual dysfunctions of some sort, ranging from pain during sex to a consistently low libido.
When in doubt, talk about it.
Above all, to have good sex, you need to be able to have good, honest communication. If you're unsure how she's feeling, just ask.
Culled from Huffington Post
Facts coming from someone that has lost count
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